Thursday, October 23, 2008

Baby Boys Never Wear Pink

I'd like to share something I find humorous--and a bit annoying. As a mom of a baby girl I must express what I believe to be common sense in the world of gender identification of babies.

Sophie wears a variety of colors. She wears her fair share of pink, but she also enjoys modeling such colors as purple, yellow, red, aqua, green, and yes, even blue. I completely understand the question I hear so often "Oh, what a beautiful baby! Boy or girl?" It is hard to tell the gender of a baby when most all colors are gender neutral. I get that, and it doesn't bother me. (Although I once had someone ask me the question when she was wearing blue--a blue DRESS. Let's get a clue please) However, there is one "for sure" marker that I would think people would "get": Baby boys never wear pink.

No parent will ever dress their baby boy in pink. No pink shirt; no pink pants; no pink socks; not even a pink bib or binkie. Now at home, a pink bib or binkie is a definite possibility, especially when the older sibling is a girl--hey, if you've got 20 pink bibs, use them! But, I dare say that in public the pink bibs stay home. Now, once a guy reaches a certain age, pink is fine. But unless one is up for ridicule and abuse, I think pink should be left in the drawers until about the age of 15. And this is especially certain for babies. Have you ever seen a baby boy dressed in pink? I doubt it.

So, maybe people just don't pay attention. But please, if my daughter is wearing pants with little pink flowers on them, pink socks, and a pink bib, you don't need to ask if the baby is a boy or girl.

I'm just saying. :)

Thursday, October 16, 2008

We'll Never Have A Savior On Capitol Hill

No candidate is perfect. And as Derek Webb says, “We'll never have a savior on capitol hill.” Obama doesn’t have all the answers, and I don’t agree with everything he believes. However, after many months of thought, prayer, reading, and listening I am voting for Barack for a number of reasons. My friend, Brad Irwin expressed my similar conviction better than I can:

“The great presidents inspire. Franklin Roosevelt failed to end the Great Depression, but he won re-election because the American people believed in him. Eventually, he led the country through World War II and back to prominence and prosperity. John Kennedy badly mismanaged the Bay of Pigs invasion, but the American public responded to his vision of a more just future for all people in America. Ronald Reagan had his share of scandals, but he inspired the country to be strong and to prosper. Whoever we elect in November will disappoint and fail from time to time, but what we need now is a leader who will inspire us to hope. Barack Obama is one of the most inspirational figures to emerge in the history of American politics. I believe his charisma alone will accomplish a great deal more than McCain could do even with all his years of Washington experience.”

The abortion issue is a hang-up (understandably) for many. As a mother, I have a deep conviction that all life is sacred. When I look at my amazing baby girl I am convicted of that over and over again. And for me, that means a consistent ethic of human life (as consistent as one can be). I don't think there is a political candidate, Democratic or Republican, that would ever concede that they are pro-abortion. (It really irritated me, by the way, that McCain kept saying "pro-abortion" last night in reference to Obama.) Pro-choice does not equal pro-abortion. Pro-choice (in all respects) is what our country was founded upon. Isn't pro-choice how we were created? My personal stance is that it is not the government's job to outlaw abortion. I think it is vitally important to make sure other alternatives are made available & more prominent. It is our responsibility not only to love and give voice to the unborn child, but to love and support those who are struggling with the decision.

I am (in general) against someone else taking a life that doesn't belong to him/her. So, I don't support the death penalty. I don't support war in general (there are certain circumstances where I do believe force may be justified--such as if our country decided to go into Darfur and stand up to protect the innocent who are unjustly being raped, murdered, and tortured—but I think in all circumstance war should be a last resort, not a first resource), and I don't support abortion. And there are also other "life" issues that weigh into my decision such as poverty and hunger in our country as well as in others, the AIDS epidemic in Africa, human trafficking, and the very existence of nuclear weapons among other things.

All that being said, I do not believe that we have a right or responsibility to control a person’s choice. I do not have the right to force my beliefs onto someone else, no matter how strongly I may feel. That is partly what makes our country what it is. And more than that, I think choice is part of what it means to be human. That certainly doesn’t mean that all choices are good or healthy. And I think as people of God we do have a responsibility to encourage good choices.

This is my opinion—one that in many ways is still in evolution. I don’t in anyway claim to be right—in fact I may be wrong. I am sure you will find inconsistencies in what I think. All I know for sure is that “by this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” I am on a journey, just as we all are, and I am trying to figure out what it means to be in allegiance to a King and His kingdom.

Saturday, October 04, 2008

An Update Is Way Past Due!

Things have been super busy in the Bowers home lately. We moved back to Rochester on August 31, and we are living with my parents until we sell our house in Lansing. I began my grad classes once again and also began a new part-time job with the Rochester Church of Christ doing special publications (from home). Brian began his job at Rochester College and is currently preparing to take his comps for grad school. He will be graduating in December, so we are excited about that. Now on to what you all really want to know:

Sophie turned 6 months old on Sunday, and is doing really well. She is 17 lbs, 5 oz and 26 inches long. She is in about the 50th-65th percentile for both her height and weight--right on target. She has finally figured out how to nap for longer than 45 minutes (cheers!!!!), and is now down to a 1 1/2-2 hour morning nap, a 2 hour afternoon nap, and evening cat nap. She is eating solid foods like a champ--fruit and oatmeal cereal for breakfast, veggies and fruit for lunch, veggies, barley cereal, fruit, and for the first time tonight--meat, for dinner. She gets a bottle as well at each meal and then a bottle before bed. She sleeps from about 8:30-7:30/8:00, but we usually still have to reposition her and give her the binkie a couple of times in the night since she has begun rolling all around. She has gotten really good at rolling--she is on the move. And, her doctor says that her gums are pretty swollen and that she will likely be cutting teeth soon--she has been a drool factory in the last few days! She is also really good at playing by herself and staying entertained for chunks at a time. Her favorite thing is still walks in the stroller (she loves looking at the leaves). She is having fun going to Bible class on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights. She is truly a joy to everyone around her.

The last six months seem like they went really fast in some ways, and in others it seems like Sophie has been with us forever. She is awesome, and we are so enjoying watching her grow and discover and learn--it seems like it is something new every day. We are blessed.